What the research tells us is that when there is an extrinsic motivation (like a sticker, the promise of a pizza party, screen time) the behavior becomes a means to an end. Short-term, we might see an increase in the behavior we want to see. But, in the long-term, the presence of an extrinsic motivation can build resentment about the desired activity.
Teaching that Matters
Because, while differences do matter – they are not what defines us, unless we let it.
This time of year gets children and families thinking a lot about toys. All are in search of that elusive item that will guarantee joy and hours and hours of fun. In a recent edition of the ExchangeEveryDay, they summarized an article from wired.com (how is that for a convoluted intro?) that provides an interesting […]
Joy: An Anecdote to Challenging Behavior
Like many proud parents, I took a picture of my children every year on their first day of school (well, most days – I tried my best). When planning our son’s graduation party, I arranged the pictures in order; from the first day of preschool to his first day of his senior year. I noticed […]
Liberation of Mismatched Socks
Recently, I gave up a bad habit; one that was draining my time and energy. I gave up the habit of insisting that my socks match. I have discovered the joy of wearing mismatched socks. It is so liberating to just grab two socks and walk out the door. And, don’t get me started […]
I came to a pretty startling realization this past weekend – but, more on that later. I am enamored with the world of genetics and physics. I voraciously devour articles and podcasts that discuss these topics. I have often said that if I had my life to live over again, I would probably dedicate myself […]