What the research tells us is that when there is an extrinsic motivation (like a sticker, the promise of a pizza party, screen time) the behavior becomes a means to an end. Short-term, we might see an increase in the behavior we want to see. But, in the long-term, the presence of an extrinsic motivation can build resentment about the desired activity.
Joy: An Anecdote to Challenging Behavior
Like many proud parents, I took a picture of my children every year on their first day of school (well, most days – I tried my best). When planning our son’s graduation party, I arranged the pictures in order; from the first day of preschool to his first day of his senior year. I noticed […]
Liberation of Mismatched Socks
Recently, I gave up a bad habit; one that was draining my time and energy. I gave up the habit of insisting that my socks match. I have discovered the joy of wearing mismatched socks. It is so liberating to just grab two socks and walk out the door. And, don’t get me started […]
Have you witnessed one of those cringe-worthy interactions in which someone is trying to get an idea across to someone else who does not speak the language? “Can you please tell me where this bus goes?” the lost tourist asks the local at the bus stop. When meet with a shrug and a bewildered look, […]
We do not know the world we are educating our children for. When most of us were in Kindergarten, our teachers could not imagine that we would all walk around with machines in our pockets that contain more computing power than the machine that guided humanity to the moon and back. It has been said […]
Can you remember jumping in puddles? It was fun, wasn’t it? The anticipation of the splash. The sensory sensation of the wonderful noise and the feel of the water hitting skin or pieces of clothing. The thrill of watching the water jump in response to the sudden intrusion. The joy of that moment when the […]