What the research tells us is that when there is an extrinsic motivation (like a sticker, the promise of a pizza party, screen time) the behavior becomes a means to an end. Short-term, we might see an increase in the behavior we want to see. But, in the long-term, the presence of an extrinsic motivation can build resentment about the desired activity.
Teaching that Matters
Because, while differences do matter – they are not what defines us, unless we let it.
This time of year gets children and families thinking a lot about toys. All are in search of that elusive item that will guarantee joy and hours and hours of fun. In a recent edition of the ExchangeEveryDay, they summarized an article from wired.com (how is that for a convoluted intro?) that provides an interesting […]
Joy: An Anecdote to Challenging Behavior
Like many proud parents, I took a picture of my children every year on their first day of school (well, most days – I tried my best). When planning our son’s graduation party, I arranged the pictures in order; from the first day of preschool to his first day of his senior year. I noticed […]
The Tyranny of “Criss-Cross Applesauce”
I noticed something interesting as I walked around my office the other day. Apparently, none of the adults with whom I work would define “comfortable” in the same way; as indicated by the postures they adopt while working. Some are on their feet with their computers elevated to accommodate their […]
Take Time for Beauty
On a recent Sunday morning, I sat, a bit groggy and grumpy, in an uncomfortable chair in the DFW airport, waiting for my highly-anticipated flight home. I was early and decided to take a walk to pass the time (and, to drive up that step count on my fitness tracker). Within a couple dozen steps, […]
Liberation of Mismatched Socks
Recently, I gave up a bad habit; one that was draining my time and energy. I gave up the habit of insisting that my socks match. I have discovered the joy of wearing mismatched socks. It is so liberating to just grab two socks and walk out the door. And, don’t get me started […]
I came to a pretty startling realization this past weekend – but, more on that later. I am enamored with the world of genetics and physics. I voraciously devour articles and podcasts that discuss these topics. I have often said that if I had my life to live over again, I would probably dedicate myself […]
There are two reason this quote by Frederick Douglass speaks to me so strongly. 1. It blows me away the insight that Frederick Douglass had about human development. He knew this even before we had machines that looked into the brains of young children and myriad studies into the importance of the first five years […]